A little while ago I sent out a survey to the Inspiration Roasters community regarding the content on Morning Coffee With Dee. I also asked about things that you struggle with, because I want Morning Coffee With Dee to be a helpful space where you can find information to aid you in living your most positive and fulfilling life! Here’s one of the questions that I asked:
What do you struggle with when it comes to self care?
The winning answer?
“Can’t seem to make it a priority.”
So then I got some input from the Twitter community regarding what they struggle with when it comes to making self care a priority. I really love getting real life input from others because it helps me to deliver more value in my content. It also builds community and helps others to see they’re not alone in the challenges they face. Here’s what I got:
People in our life with bigger problems, deadlines approaching, & just responsibilities ~ Lily @ Learning Lily
Assignment deadlines piling up, revision to do & not having enough hours in the day to get everything done ~ Fatima @ Rosy Gold Box
Uni and work 🙁 ~ Nele @ The Navigato
For me, it’s work. I think that’s the same for a lot of people. For those who put everything they have into their job, there’s just not much energy left at the end of the day. A cheeseburger and bed sound better ~ Jess @ Jessica Litras Blog
Procrastination coupled with ambitious goals. I work 9-5 and often I’m too tired to do anything when I get home, and then I still have a ton of work to do for my blog. It doesn’t leave a lot of time to make self care a priority ~ Logan @ Signed Logan
On top of working, commuting 2hrs, excercising, blogging etc, I always make time to socialise with friends & fam so I don’t become a hermit! But when your squeezing as much as you can out of each hour of the day, it can sometimes feel impossible to take a day off to yourself… ~ Kayla @ That Kayla Girl
Anxiety and depression can deter me from taking care of myself. A mental side effect is not wanting to do things you normally like/feel good about doing. Definitely comes out for me when I have a low period ~ Ayorinde @ Bright Eyed Joy
Honestly it’s my feeling of constantly needing to be productive. Sometimes I get so caught up in my full time job & blogging that I forget to make it a priority in my life. Then I get burnt out & realize I should’ve taken care of myself a while ago! ~ Stephanie @ Lifestyle by Stephanie
Failure, depression, anxiety, school, family.. 🙁 ~ Nikki @ Her Darling Thoughts
Working long hours/ early morning/ late nights is a big one for me. I barely have time to eat never mind other aspects of self care ~ Emma @ Emma’s Cruelty Free
Feeling like it’s frivolous spending ~ Anna @ Venture & Eat
For me lately it’s been feeling “guilty” for taking me time when I could have been doing something else for someone or completing priorities. Also I relate with others about feeling burnout after working ~ Tyra @ Too Chinese For U
I love this question. For me it’s definitely the feeling of “what’s the point” which is in part of my depression. I don’t go out a lot so I’m like well no ones gonna see me anyway ~ Shannon @ Shannon K
When I have no motivation to do anything, this also makes me not want to prioritise self care because I feel like I don’t deserve it ~ Megan @ The Write Blog
Right now? My two months old baby boy. Been struggling to find time to myself, blogging and keeping the house clean ~ Joana @ Bonjour Janie
I think depression plays a role, especially when it comes to motivation. Often I’m not motivated to do anything to take care of myself because everything seems pointless. Another reason, might be that people don’t want to seem selfish. Even though it is not at all! ~ Kymberlee @ BDD & Me
I always put other people’s needs ahead of mine and then I forget about my own needs. Which snowballs into a mess of anxiety and some depression lows. I also just think I’ll plan “me time” later, but never actually do ~ Vanessa @ Vanessa Kingson
Can you relate to any of these?
I noticed many common challenges in the answers such as work, burn out, feeling tired, mental health, putting others first, and overwhelming responsibilities. Honestly, reading all of the answers made me question my ability to write this post because, unfortunately, I can’t solve everyone’s problems (as much as I wish I could!), and I know that the tips I discuss here will not be helpful for everyone. There’s no one size fits all approach for making self care a priority, because the reality is that everyone faces different challenges and barriers.
However, at the very least, I hope that these tips can change your perspective on self care, and spark some new ideas on how you can move self care closer to the top of your priority list. Because self care is essentially just taking care of yourself. Shouldn’t you be a priority in your own life?
p.s. If you have two minutes to spare, the survey I was talking about is still living right HERE. I use the information to continue to create helpful and inspiring content for you guys!
Tips to Make Self Care a Priority in Your Life
1. Define self care for YOU
I think the true definition of self care has been slightly misinterpreted in the last few years. Self care is not all about bubble baths and expensive spa days. Self care is simply “any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health (PsychCentral).” That’s it. With that said, self care is different for everyone, because only you know how to take care of your mental, emotional, and physical health. It’s going to take a little soul searching to figure out which self care practices work best for you, but in order to do that you have to understand what self care truly is. Understand that self care should be something you enjoy doing, and know that self care doesn’t have to be complicated, time consuming, or expensive!Understand that self care doesn't have to be time consuming, expensive, or complicated! Click To Tweet
2. Identify why you’re not making self care a priority
To solve a problem you have to know specifically what the problem is right? Take a second to answer these questions yourself (this is exactly what I asked the Twitter community to get all those amazing answers you read earlier!):
What gets in the way of making self care a priority in your life?
What makes you feel like you have no time for self care?
Once you have your answer, it’s going to be a lot easier to solve your lack of self care. For example, if you’re experiencing challenges with your mental health, your first priority would be to address those challenges however works best for you (which is actually part of self care because you’re taking care of your emotional/mental well-being!) If you’re over-committing yourself to others, work on becoming more assertive and learning to say “no” when necessary (Catherine at The Blissful Mind has a great blog post on this topic HERE!) If you’re feeling burnt out because of work, college, blogging, etc. take a break! Take a self care staycation at home and do NOT feel guilty about it. You deserve it.Check out these 6 tips to help you make self care a priority! Click To Tweet
3. Identify what your favorite self care practices are
Like I said earlier, self care looks different for everyone. So how can you make self care a priority if you don’t even know where to start? Take a minute to think about what makes you feel happy, rejuvenated, and relaxed. What do you look forward to? What do you enjoy doing? Who do you enjoy spending time with? What puts you at peace when you’re stressed? Make these your go-to self care activities and try your best to squeeze one into every day.
4. Create a daily self care ritual
Come up with a short (10-20 minute) self care ritual that you can practice every morning or night. A simple ritual that you’ll look forward to because it’s your time to unwind. This can honestly be anything. For example, every night during the week I burn some incense or diffuse essential oils (lavender is great for calming down!), brew a cup of tea, turn on my Himalayan salt lamp and just relax. While this is happening I’ll usually either, journal, read, listen to music or a podcast, or just mindfully drink my tea and enjoy every sip. It’s as simple as that.
5. Understand that self care isn’t selfish
There’s a common perception out there that self care is selfish. Basically, if you spend time alone, or time taking care of yourself, you’re neglecting everyone else in your life. I think this is especially hard for empaths (myself included) who are always thinking about how other’s feel, and putting the needs of others before their own. The problem with this, is that eventually it starts taking a toll on your overall well-being. Then you find yourself feeling stressed, burnout, or overwhelmed, and how are you supposed to truly be there for the people you love if you’re feeling this way? As cliche as the saying “you can’t pour from an empty cup” is, there is truth to it. Even if you can pour something out, it’s not going to be as great as it would be if you weren’t feeling so burnt out. It’s totally fine to take time for yourself because you are your priority and you deserve it. Shoot, you deserve it even more if you’re always going out of your way for others and helping those who need it. Reward yourself for all the amazing things that you do by practicing self care.Understand that self care is NOT selfish Click To Tweet
6. Schedule self care into your day
Treat self care just like you would anything else that’s on your to-do list. Yes girl, literally schedule it into your day. This is especially helpful if you’re planner obsessed, or if you love checking off boxes on to-do lists (like me). That way, you have that visual reminder to prompt you to relax for a second and take care of yourself. Write something in your planner like “me time” or “self care ritual” or “date with the coolest person ever” (yes, that’s you!) and follow through with it! Start with 5-10 minute self care appointments and gradually increase it. Eventually you’ll feel comfortable taking an entire day to yourself!
I hope something that you read here has inspired you to try to make self care a priority in your life. I totally understand that it can difficult at times, especially when you have so much going on at once. However, once you develop healthy self care habits, you’ll be so happy you did and you’ll wonder why you didn’t try this a lot sooner. Remember to think of self care as simply nurturing your mind, body, and soul. Nourishing your emotional, physical, and mental well-being. Ensuring that you’re functioning at your highest potential. Living your most fulfilling life.
Comment below and let me know why you’re struggling to make self care a priority. OR let me know how you made self care a priority in your life! I’m sure there are so many people out there who would love to hear any tips that you have!